The following article comes from a message sent to me and a few others. I thought that it was so inspirational…such a “EUREKA!” kind of message that I wanted to pass it along to you. The Author wishes to remain anonymous. Thank YOU for allowing me to share!
I have a confession… I am organizationally challenged… I come from a long line of “collectors” (some family members could be classified as hoarders) and have had to work very hard to develop new habits… habits that tell myself it is ok to love myself first… it is ok to love myself enough to take care of my hair, nails, clothes and home (translating to spending money on me and beautifying my home)… so this is feeling like a testimony.. “I’m (author) and I ‘m a recovering collector.” LOL… feeling a little anxious.. hang with me, I have a point… So, I was reading a post in a blog I subscribe to called the “FLYlady”… she is an organizational coach. F.L.Y. Finally Loving Yourself… anyway… this woman posted about when she began decluttering her home… she kept a box of things to fix and then one day she released it… she just put it at the curb… what she said about how she felt when she did really struck a cord with me… “When I joined Flylady, and began decluttering, I found I keep so much that is “broken”. I box it up, convinced the broken should be fixed before I move forward. I can’t buy a new clock; I need to fix this one with a battery. I can’t love; I need to fix my vulnerability to hurt. I can’t change; I need to fix my inclination to make mistakes. I’ll find the “right” battery, for the clock, the “right” words, to heal my broken heart, the “right” explanation to understand why so much in my life went wrong. There was symbolic release, in putting the “Needs To Be Fixed” box into the trash without looking inside. I knew if I opened the box, perfection and fear would insist I fix and keep everything. Flying asks “need, use, love” – and taught me I can’t fix the past, and more importantly, do not “need” to fix the past, even if what is broken is something I once loved. I can only choose to free myself, from the past. All I have to know is, if it does not work, it’s time to let it go. The best of my future does not depend on fixing what broke, long ago. The best of my future depends on releasing what broke, long ago.” Helped me… hope it helps others! Love and Peace to all of you…
Wow! I love, LOVE, L O V E! this. Another “guest” writer has put down her thoughts and some words of great wisdom that inspired her. It certainly gives me something new to consider. “It taught me that I can’t fix the past, and more importantly, do not “need” to fix the past…All I have to know is, if it does not work, it’s time to let it go.” I needed to hear this message…and NOW. This is an incredibly powerful message to me because I am a hoarder too…and I have a collection of things that have absolutely no use or value other than to cause clutter…or haunt or taunt me…to mess up my peace of mind.
I recently bought gigantic plastic CLEAR bins at Wal-Mart so that I could transfer stuff from cardboard boxes into containers that I can see through and stack neatly. Why? The stuff is useless. It is junk. If I haven’t needed anything out of the boxes yet…why would I need to SEE through a plastic stacked bin something I don’t even need…or want? Why do I keep the stuff AT ALL! I need to purge.
I didn’t recognize that I had a problem with letting things go. In fact, I was quite proud of my “pruning” ability. Usually a couple of times a year I will go through my closets and drawers and my kids closets and drawer…I will clean out cabinets and pantries and pull out the entire contents of the garage. Yes, I am a work-horse and I admit that I am a recovering neat freak. I lived my life until I had a bunch of kids and pets and a husband who is a mess VERY VERY OCD. My nature is to have complete structure and order…my motto was, “there is a place for everything and everything should be in its place! At all times!” But that isn’t life…and I wasn’t willing to let my obsession to have everything “just so” at all times make me or my family crazy. So now I try to overlook messes…until I can’t help myself and then I get into a CLEANING FRENZY. That happens at least once a week…but not all day everyday I am proud to say. But even with all of my straightening and sorting and purging and pruning, there are SOOO many things that I keep putting back instead of tossing out. “But I might need that…but I need to remember that …it might come back in style…I might fit into it again…it just needs a little work…”
Several weeks ago my mother came to town to help me move. It was actually one of several moves that I and my family have done over the past few months …and I thought I had done a good job of leaving a lot of the useless junk behind. But then I had to face facts when my mother, who is usually very thoughtful about how she broaches sensitive subjects (but ultimately says what she thinks without sugar-coating), said…”I had no idea what a Pack Rat you are!”
Well, I didn’t either.
It was a rude awakening, but this article/musing/insight from our guest author today has given me inspiration to change my ways. It would be cathartic for certain…and unburdening. “There was symbolic release in putting the “Needs to Be Fixed Box” into the trash without looking inside.” Hhhmm. That sounds so hard to do. But I already know how good it is going to feel when I finally do it.
Don’t misunderstand me. Many things that needs repair should NOT be trashed. I am a huge believer in Jack Johnson’s request for us to, “Reduce, Reuse, Recycle”. But admit it, there are some things that we hold onto for so so so long that simply don’t have the parts necessary for a fix. ..or it is tainted or distorted or frayed…simply damaged beyond repair. There are some things that are full of holes from mis-use or rust from dis-use. There are some things that sadly, after trying and trying …holding onto… and hoping, and praying and praying…and asking for help to repair, to restore, to work – just won’t. Ever. So let it go. I am going to start today. There will be a lot of junk at my curb tomorrow morning for somebody else to take away for me…to take away from me. To release me. I feel better already:))
****AND Again, if there is something that YOU want to say…that you think will help others or that you think people need to know, this is your opportunity to be my next guest author. Thank you for your contributions. I can’t wait to hear from you.