I have A LOT to do today…but I can tell that I am not going to be able to concentrate until I get this off of my chest. Please don’t misunderstand me…I am a definitely a Jesus loving, Good- Ol’ -Country girl. I’ve lived in Tennessee, Texas, Florida, Georgia, Alabama…I love me some country music radio – and the countrier the better. But there are some songs that are so STUPID – did you get that? STUPID !!! that I simply cannot tolerate it! I must comment. So here it goes…
The only time I listen to the radio is when I am driving (yes, I do drive a truck.) And usually I am not driving unless I am taking one of my kids somewhere. And that is where I was this morning at 6am…still in my pajamas and my robe with a total bed-head ponytail. And this song (if you want to call it that) comes on the radio that makes me want to hurl my morning peanut butter and chocolate chips – had I eaten my peanut butter and chocolate chips yet, and fortunately I had not. Picture this, I am riding along with my 14-year-old daughter who, at that time of the morning, resembles “Sandy the squirrel” when she has been woken up from her hibernation by Sponge Bob and Patrick. Breaking the Morning Silence is tantamount to a declaration of war…but I had to say, “THAT IS SOOOO STUPID!” and change the channel.
What got me so fired-up? Heaven knows it is not the first country, male-sung song about the topic. But this one in particular makes me want to grab my 40-foot high soap-box. This one song is like a concentrated form of acid dripped on my bare skin, or a metal fork being drug across a metal chalk board. Maybe because it talks about Jesus…like Jesus makes everything that anybody does alright…even if the sinner knows they are sinning and keeps doing it….and the sin not only hurts the sinner but other people too. Over and Over and Over. I understand that the majority of country music songs has Jesus in there somewhere, but in the song I heard this morning, Jesus is in the TITLE.
There is a long history of country music songs that seem to praise the lucky singer’s “Little Woman” for putting up with his constant crap….anything the guy does is explained away and forgiven. He’s just a man…just human. Well isn’t she just a woman? Why can he be weak…but she has to always be strong? Ironically the song that has made my head want to explode has “Waylon” in the very first sentence!…and I remember back from my childhood days the Waylon Jennings song that goes:
“Long time forgotten the dreams that just fell by the way. The good life he promised ain’t what she’s livin’ today. But she never complains of the bad times or the bad things he’s done, lord she just talks about the good times they’ve had and all the good times to come. She’s a good-hearted woman in love with a good timin’ man. She loves him in spite of his ways she don’t understand. With teardrops & laughter they pass through this world hand in hand. (A good-hearted woman, lovin’ a good timin’ man. He likes the bright lights and night life and good time friends. And when the party’s all over she’ll welcome him back home again Lord knows she don’t understand him but she does the best that she can. This good-hearted woman, lovin’ a good timin’ man. She’s a good-hearted woman in love with a good timin’ man. She loves him in spite of his ways she don’t understand. With teardrops & laughter they pass through this world hand in hand. A good-hearted woman, lovin’ a good timin’ man.”
Or the recent song by Lee Brice that one of my daughters likes (because she is too young to understand how STUPID it is):
“I am insensitive. I have a tendency to pay more attention to the things that I need. Sometimes I drink too much, sometimes I test your trust, sometimes I dunno why you’re staying with me? I’m hard to love, hard to love, I don’t make it easy. I couldn’t do it if I stood where you stood. I’m hard to love, hard to love, you say that you need me, I don’t deserve it but I love that you love me. good. I am a short fuse, I am a wrecking ball crashing into your heart like I do. You’re like a Sunday morning full of grace and full of Jesus I wish that I could be more like you. I’m hard to love, hard to love, I don’t make it easy, I couldn’t do it if I stood where you stood, I’m hard to love, hard to love, you say that you need me, I don’t deserve it but I love that you love me. Good Love me good. Girl you’ve given me a million second chances and I don’t ever wanna take you for granted, I’m just a man, I’m just a man.Hard to love, hard to love, oh I don’t make it easy and I couldn’t do it if I stood where you stood. I’m hard to love, hard to love and you say that you need me, I don’t deserve it but I love that you love me. good. ”
Good grief. Is anybody but me seeing the problem here? And now the lyrics from this morning:
“I’m a long gone Waylon song on vinyl. I’m a back row sinner at a tent revival. She believes in me like she believes her Bible. She loves me like Jesus does.
I’m a left foot leaning on a souped up Chevy. I’m a good ole boy drinkin’ whiskey and rye on the levee. But she carries me when my sins make me heavy. She loves me like Jesus does.
All the crazy in my dreams, both my broken wings, every single piece of everything I am. She knows the man I ain’t, she forgives me when I can’t. That devil, man, he don’t stand a chance. She loves me like Jesus does.
I always thought she’d give up on me one day. Wash her hands of me leave me staring down some runway. But I thank God each night and twice on Sunday that she loves me like Jesus does.
All the crazy in my dreams, both my broken wings, every single piece of who I am. She knows the man I ain’t, she forgives me when I can’t. That devil man, he don’t have a prayer. She loves me like Jesus does. Yeah she knows the man I ain’t. She forgives me when I can’t. That devil, man, he don’t stand a chance. Cause she loves me like Jesus does.”
All of these guys KNOW they are doing wrong…being bad…breaking her heart. And yet they keep doing it. And they know she shouldn’t stay…but she stays anyway. Because she is like Jesus? Maybe she is. It is beautiful to be loving and forgiving…but those guys are BREAKING HER HEART! They don’t know what love is. They don’t know what sacrifice is. They are USING USING their “good Little Woman”. Maybe instead of praising the girl that they profess to be so grateful for in a song…they should SHOW it. Maybe they should be like Jesus. Maybe they should put away their childish ways and be a man…A GOOD man. And stop breaking her heart.
Good grief. Does anybody else want to HURL besides the dozens of women AND men that I know that stuck around in real life country music songs for ten, fifteen, twenty, twenty-five years…praying, hoping, thinking that they were doing the RIGHT thing…And all the while, what they were doing was not noble because they were being used, abused and ENABLING a person to continue doing wrong and not having to be accountable.
Sorry if you think that I am READING/ HEARING too much into this, but there are “good-hearted” women and men… and there are people who stay with people who are hard to love…and there are people who are set up to be martyrs for life because somebody plays the “Jesus” card to a religious person…a person who has been told and taught and who BELIEVES that Jesus would stay. And the USER keeps on playing that Jesus card.
Well, in my opinion Jesus would love and Jesus would pray, but after years of getting nowhere Jesus would continue to try to help…but at a distance. There are a lot of other people who need a Good News Message and who will react like a holy spirit flame and not like a constant oppressive storm cloud who douse out any little spark. Jesus would NOT live in Hell. Hell is where the Devil resides…NOT a place for the godly to spend any time other than passing through. How does a person do anything for God from Hell? If you know, I would love to hear it.
GIVE me a break Country Music singers and anybody else who believes they have no accountability to change their ways because they don’t HAVE to…even if they are terribly wrong and hurtful to others. To those that don’t see anything wrong with taking advantage of people, go get help so that you might deserve to keep that good-hearted woman or man who has stayed with your hard-to-love self for so long. And if you are the good-hearted…good luck and best wishes. Only you can decide what would Jesus REALLY do. WWJRD???
If you KNOW you are “hard to love”, then stop it. Only a sick, and I mean truly sick, person would get pleasure from someone else’s pain…especially someone they supposedly loved.